Want True Happiness? Live Now and Stop Comparing Ourselves To The Past, Future Or Others. Be Here Now!

We all have inclinations to compare ourselves with others, measuring our worth, happiness and achievement in life. Good or bad, these associations only rob ourselves of real contentment.

Our paths are unique in every way. We need to remind ourselves that other people’s paths are nothing like our own. We have to take ourselves out of the future. The psychology of happiness will arrive when such and such happens – never quite happens, as we are creatures that keep creating new goals to strive for and attain, continually replacing old goals. A never ending searching cycle.

If we remove from the equation the ‘happiness-reward-association’ we put on goals, and replace this with a ‘natural-progression-association’ we take out the ‘shallow element’. Break the mental link we have so much been accustomed to throughout our lives that tell us that possessions, achievements, experiences equal happiness. 

Have we ever been shopping for a few goodies such as clothes or new gizmos, come home with half a dozen items and only been truly happy with half the stuff? The so-called retail therapy just may have gone the other way. They call it retail therapy for a reason: to help bring back happiness through purchasing something nice. Don’t let an item equal happiness. Take a walk as the sun comes up or when the sun goes down and remind ourselves that this is far more important than a new piece of cloth or a new piece of plastic that we somehow traded an old piece of paper or card for. The whole world wants something, try not to lower ourselves and our happiness to being a mere commodity that can be cheaply traded. We are a (breathing) commodity with feelings. A commodity with heart. A commodity that is far higher than any material object commodity. 

Replace our mental token system with: possessions, achievements, experiences are merely an everyday event like having breakfast or lunch. Start to summon happiness on the fly. Be in charge of the moment. Turn the reward system on its head. Shock those around us with the ‘difference in needs and happiness’. 

By all means constantly strive for the greatest outcomes in our situations and surroundings, all these WILL become faster and more attainable as we mature in our souls. We start by just momentarily slowing down and appreciating and really smiling at the tiny things like buying a chocolate bar and truly enjoying it. Even taking this to the next level and reminiscing about this chocolate bar and how good this chocolate bar was for the rest of the day, or the rest of the week! Other such things as actions in sharing, sharing something with others. Adding something of value to someone’s life that didn’t require trading commodities but pure creativity, time and affection.

We welcome happiness at any given moment from within, we take back control and we stop kneeling to the Products of China and so on… We take the gamble out of our lives as to: will this item, (no matter how big or small) make me happy. 

Our happiness is ubiquitous, contagious and free in our past, present and soul-future.